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Charm and Punishment

Everyone likes a charismatic person with a magnetic personality. These alphas are the well-liked and envied personage, with a massive social circle and regarded as the most well-adjusted members of the society. Almost everyone is curious about how to transform into one themselves. Well known bestsellers are readily available for consultation on this topic. There are countless blog posts, articles and v-logs streaming quantifiably in bulks to share their versions of tried and tested formulas. In fact there are no end of role models to look-up to with their perfect hair and vibrant social presence.
The reason for anyone wanting to appear charismatic lies with the fact that the people at the height of their careers are dubbed as being compelling and appealing. It is commonly believed that this trait gravitates monumental amounts of success and respect onto the possessor. People with good looks and of alluring countenance are more noteworthy and leave a lasting impression on our psychology. Companies have a veiled bias for hiring well-groomed employees especially in public related sectors. Models are exclusively hired to market brands and people in general have a welcoming attitude towards vibrant individuals and eager to enter their friend’s circle.


It is crucial to understand here that good looks are only a singular factor of a compelling personality. Certainly focusing only on one’s look appears as a corrupted and misguided approach towards life at first glance however this important facet of our daily routine remains open for deliberate debating. On a personal level both in professional and private capacity we ourselves have a naturally positive inclination towards people who put an effort into the way they present themselves both in mind and body. Nobody wants to be associated with a foul mouthed and raggedly clothed gob. A person who is unable to take care of themselves deems unlikely to be of a very accomodating forbearance.
It is definitely not very wise to give preference to people on account of their appearance and outward portrayal solely. As we read through the lives of geniuses and prodigies we notice that a sizable amount of their percentile found the challenge of mingling with the masses somewhat difficult due to their contraband dispositions. Therefore we can conclude that only good looks or a high IQ alone does not equate the amicable appeal. It is the innate desire of all human beings to be liked and admired by their peers thus adding another component to the mix namely “willingness”. Meaning that a picturesque individual paired with immense intelligence alongside having the drive to attain charisma does not warrant them with a charismatic character despite being in custody of all its material requirements.
For many intellectuals the question remains not merely “How to have charisma?” but rather “Why to have charisma?” It is important to have a concrete penchant within our higher intelligent selves as to why we want or do not want to immerse in the pursuit of social acceptance. So long as the stimuli for wanting this transformation is not influenced by superfluous ideals it can be allowed to be garnered as a healthy infatuation. Wanting to add to our winning qualities in the workplace or communal interactions is an estimable effort. The key is to set a golden standard for yourself without lofty expectations and working steadily towards it.
It is absolutely OK to have a difference of opinion with respect to the hows and whys of wanting to attain charisma and the depths of struggle with personal engagement. However creating a discrimination for a person who wants to wear make-up or does not want to participate in social activity is plain and simple misguided. Anyone wishing to expand their popularity status is free and entitled to do so at their own expense as much as the person who wishes to be excused from these practices. What really matters is that we as a people and as an individual are not harming our psychological well-being and/or endorsing or procuring superficial standards in the society. After all “It takes one to know one!”